Until the
night someone followed me through the small-town cobblestone alleys of Paris, I
always thought the city was lovely.
My love of
traveling solo and my anxiety met that night, but I also learned things I wish
I had known sooner.
This tale is meant for women who enjoy traveling solo.
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A Dream Evening Turned Into a Wake-Up Call
I was in
Paris on my third day of traveling solo. I had spent the afternoon drinking
espresso by the Seine and the morning at the Musée d'Orsay.
I made the
decision to take a leisurely stroll along the Canal Saint-Martin as golden hour
drew near.
This area is
popular with people since it is attractive, serene, and seemingly
"safe."
That's what I
thought, anyway.
The Moment I Realized I Was Being Followed
When I was
leaving a little bookstore, I saw a man standing behind me. I didn't give it
much thought at first. In the crowded city of Paris, people always stroll in
the same direction.
But it
continued. at the intersection. Around a bend. In a small bakery. He was always
there, just near enough to make me nervous every time I glanced over my
shoulder.
I rushed. His
did as well. I screamed. My heart pounded. And I was certain, I wasn't
dreaming.
How a Local Woman Helped Me Feel Safe Again?
I went into a
little café and looked directly at the woman behind the counter in an effort to
think clearly. "I think someone is following me," I said in a whisper
as I approached, trying not to cry.
She escorted
me behind the counter right away, gave me water, and stayed by my side until
the man left. She then dialed a cab and waited with me until I got inside
safely.
Not only did
that stranger save my night, but she additionally rebuilt my sense of
responsibility.
7 Safety Lessons Every Solo Female Traveler Should Know
I don't tell
this story to discourage ladies from traveling solo. I share it because we
should have the freedom and security to travel the world.
1. Always Trust Your Intuition
Don't
question yourself if anything seems strange. The gut is there to keep you safe.
2. Wear Confidence, Not Just a Cute
Outfit
Being
confident is about being there, not simply about looking good. Even if you're
not sure where you're headed, act as though you do.
3. Keep Emergency Phrases Handy
Learn local
words such as,
Aidez-moi! (Help me!)
Appelez la police! (Call the police!)
You can
either save them to your phone or write them down.
4. Avoid Distractions While Walking
Alone
Being mindful
of your surroundings is the first step to remaining safe, regardless how tempting
it may be to text a friend or listens to a podcast.
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5. Have a “Safe Place” Strategy
Quick safe
havens can be found in coffee shops, motels, pharmacies, and even major
retailers like Monoprix. If you feel unsafe, duck in.
6. Share Your Live Location With
Someone You Trust
Your loved
ones can feel more relaxed using apps like Life360 or WhatsApp location
sharing, which could also be a lifesaver in an emergency.
7. Don’t Be Afraid to Speak Up or Ask
for Help
Speak up,
whether it's a barista, a hotel staff, or a complete stranger. You're never
"overreacting" when it comes to your safety.
Paris Is Still Beautiful - But I See It Differently Now
My journey
wasn't defined by that night. Yet, I wouldn't be telling the truth if I claimed
it didn't change my solo female travel style.
I now carry
pepper spray (where it's permitted), plan my route ahead of time, and have
complete faith in myself.
For Every Woman Traveling Solo - This Is Your Reminder
You have
strength. You're intelligent. You're free to occupy space and aggressively
defend it.
Do not postpone your vacation. But be ready.
You have the
right to travel the world and do it in safety.
Be
courageous, be mindful, and never be scared to tell your story, it could save
another woman's life.
Safe travels,
Have You Ever Felt Unsafe While Traveling Solo?
Let's open a discussion. Leave a comment below with your experience or a safety suggestion. You might be able to keep another woman safe.
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